Cori Schimko: 2019

Thursday, March 21, 2019

How to Conquer Your Fears

It has been a long time since I have made a new blog post. The haters of my blog are no longer around to put down my ridiculous ideas and ramblings. In that stretch of nearly a half a year, I have had a lot of time to ponder and express myself without the pressure coming from those who “love” me. I am indeed talking about a FOOLPROOF plan to conquering fear!

It Helps to be More Afraid of Yourself than Anything Else at All

It may sounds crazy to become afraid of yourself, and it is! Becoming scared of yourself is a great way to promise that you will always have the allure of being a person with low self- esteem. Although, if you scare yourself the most, then nothing else can truly phase you. Making the decision to to be perpetually frightened of your own being and power as a human makes you question every ounce of your being and double check yourself. Judging yourself so harshly is almost worse can judging yourself and before you tell me how contradictory my point of view on fearing yourself is, I will put out there that the meta of fearing yourself almost too intense for my mind to wrap itself around. Ultimately, this post is about ‘How to NOT have fear’, so in order to conquer your nerves, recognize the power you have, as well as, don’t have.

Conquer that Fear that you Thought you Could Never Live Through

NEVER PUT YOURSELF IN A DANGEROUS SITUATION ON PURPOSE JUST TO ERADICATE YOUR FEARS! Phobias can sometimes be conquered by exposure therapy, but fearing something that is truly life threatening and potentially traumatizing is normal. Sometimes, that traumatic fear happens to us when we least expect it; get through that is the hardest thing ever! Sometimes a person can get through trauma by themselves, but mostly of time people need some help. If you need help or a person in your life needs help, help them or find someone who can! The bright side is, once that trauma heals (or heals as best it can), it is easier to not fear that situation or, you learn how to prevent that situation from ever happening again. Save yourself some time. Learn while you live!

Try Things you Normally Wouldn’t and/ or Know Nothing About

Leave your damn house once in a while! Smell the roses, eat a vegan meal, go to a video game bar with a colleague. You can’t fear what you have been exposed to. The worst thing that can happen is that you don’t like the activity you tried. Knowingly disliking something and not doing something because you are afraid are too different things. Plus, doing more helps you relate to others more. Human connection and exercising your brain are important.

Practice saying “F**k it”

“I can’t change it,” is a great mantra to have in your tool box. If you are stuck in traffic or someone you trust turns on you and they are set in their ways, you can’t change that situation. The only possible next step is to move on; easier said than done, but happens in time. New situations arise that require your attention, if nothing else requires your attention, then you need a new responsibility.

Separate All Feelings of Love

I don’t mean ‘love’ in the traditional sense. Love is beautiful and should be shared with as many people as possible. Love is infinite, but your attention span is not. Obsessive relationships go sour eventually. You can have a solid codependency for so many years and be perfectly fine, but when one is torn away from another in anyway, this is always followed by some mentally challenging consequences. Separation becomes less hard when you are in a codependency with yourself. Know the difference between romance and obsession, they are not one in the same. Instead, love yourself infinitely by finding that reason to love your life and everything you do.